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Inspiration to keep Studying…

Some of the ‘Ulema of the past used to say that those who do not believe that the Talibul ‘Ilm, that the scholar is a warrior, is a Mujahid then he has no intellect. The scholar, the talibul ‘ilm, is defending the borders and the lines of Islam just like a Mujahid is fighting and defending Islam with his body and blood. He’s fighting it with his pen and lectures, his teachings and his classes. You know? That Mujahid wouldn’t be there unless he had a good teacher, right? So it’s tough to get up everyday and recite 10 pages of Quraan, and memorize, and review, and then study this. It’s tough! Those people don’t have the stomach to study or the discipline , or the humility to sit between somebody’s legs under their feet and study. They just want a fatwa. They, as the scholars say, want the taste of knowledge but they don’t want to eat the meal. They say the introduction is too long and the teacher is not getting to the point. But the introduction has its place. If they would stick to the first five lessons, they would get somewhere, you know?

- Ustadh

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Words of Wisdom |PDF| by Sh. ‘AbdulAziz ibn Marzouq at-Tarefe

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

 الحمد لله رب العالمين وصلى الله وسلم على رسول الله وعلى آله وأصحابه ومن اهتدى بهديه إلى يوم الدين

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Download the beautiful pdf here.

Mashaa’Allah his facebook page is my most favourite. You can benefit from it here inshaa’Allah.

Wasalamu ‘alaykum warahmatullah,

-UmmS.

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No Other Choice

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

 الحمد لله رب العالمين وصلى الله وسلم على رسول الله وعلى آله وأصحابه ومن اهتدى بهديه إلى يوم الدين

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Imam Ibn Qayyim al-Jauziyyah (R):

“There is no resort, except to observe good patience. Surely, help and aid only come from Allah, Alone. Truly, Allah is Sufficient for us; how excellent He is as a Supporter.”

 [Zad-ul Ma'ad, Translated by Jalal Abualrub 1/95]

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You’re Stronger than You Think!

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

 الحمد لله رب العالمين وصلى الله وسلم على رسول الله وعلى آله وأصحابه ومن اهتدى بهديه إلى يوم الدين

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 لا يقوى تسلط الشيطان على الإنسان إلا مع ضعف الإيمان، وإذا قوي الإيمان ضعف تسلّطه

(إنه ليس له سلطان على الذين آمنوا وعلى ربهم يتوكلون)

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Translation:

Shayṭān’s power over a person does not become strong except with weak īmān; if one’s īmān becomes strong, his power becomes weak:

{ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ لَهُ سُلْطَانٌ عَلَى الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَلَىٰ رَبِّهِمْ يَتَوَكَّلُونَ }

“Indeed, he has no power over those who believe and rely upon their Lord.”

[Surat'l Naḥl, 16:99]

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Sh. Abdul Aziz Al-Tarefe

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Comprehensive Academic and Life Counselling by Imam al Bukhari (R)

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

 الحمد لله رب العالمين وصلى الله وسلم على رسول الله وعلى آله وأصحابه ومن اهتدى بهديه إلى يوم الدين

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Of everything I have read on the theme of seeking out knowledge, I have never come across any narration – other than from revealed texts, of course – that does a better job of delineating the roadmap of how to seek out knowledge than the following narration. Granted, some of the advice given in it is directed at the student of Hadith in particular, but much of it applies to students of all of the Islamic sciences. If one is considering theoption of dedicating one’s life to the pursuit of Islamic knowledge, one would do well to read over and iver again the following narration.

Al-Qaadee Al-Waleed ibn Ibraheen Al-Bukhari was one of the students of Imam Bukhari, and when he grew up, he became the chief judge of the district of Ar-Rayy.

He related that when he was just entering the early years of adulthood, he developed a yearning to seek out the knowledge of Hadeeth. And he of course went to one of the most eminent Hadeeth scholars of his time and told him about his desire to become a student of knowledge. That scholar was Imam Bukhari (R), and if the beginning part of his response seems enigmatic at first blush, it becomes clearer towards the end of the narration.

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He said to Al-Waleed,

“O my son, do not embark upon an endeavour until you know its limits (i.e., what you will be required to learn in order to master the endeavour or course of studies you are embarking upon) and until you know the talents that will be required of you in order for you to succeed at it. And know that a man does not truly and completely become a scholar of Hadeeth until he writes down four things with four things and the example of four thing; until he writes during four stages; until he writes in four conditions; until he writes in four places; until he writes down on four things; and until he writes down from four kinds of people.

When he does that, four types of things will become easy for him [to lose (i.e., those four things will not preoccupy his time and thoughts)]; also, he will be tested in four things. And if he remains patient throughout those tests, Allah will honor him with four things in this world, and will reward him with four things in the Hereafter.”

Al-Qadee Al-Waleed asked,

“May Allah have mercy upon you. Interpret for me all groups of four things you mentioned.”

Imam Bukhari said,

“Yes the four things one needs to write about are:

  1. legislations of the Messenger salalahu ‘alayhi wasalam and all information one can gather about him;
  2. the Companions and their talents (and doings and achievements);
  3. the Taabi’oon and their doings and,
  4. the rest of the scholars of Islam and their biographies, their names, their Kunyahs, the places they went to, and the eras they lived.

The examples of narrations one should know about are:

  1. a narration that has a complete and connected chain of narrators;
  2. one that has a chain that is only missing the name of the Companion who narrated it;
  3. one that is Mawqoof (i.e., it stops short at someone before the Prophet salalahu ‘alayhi wasalam, therefore it can be ascribed to a Companion, but not to the Prophet salalahu ‘alayhi wasalam) and,
  4. one that is disconnected.

One must write narrations (and knowledge in general) when:

  1. one is young;
  2. when one reaches the age of understanding;
  3. during the years of one’s young adulthood and,
  4. during one’s middle years.

One must write down (narrations and preoccupy oneself with knowledge under four conditions):

  1. when one is busy;
  2. when one is free;
  3. when one is poor and,
  4. when one is rich.

One must write down knowledge in four places:

  1. on the tops of mountains;
  2. while travelling by sea;
  3. in cities and,
  4. in the desert.

And one must write knowledge on four things:

  1. on stones;
  2. on shells;
  3. on leather;
  4. on shoulder bones (of animals) until the time comes when one is able to transcribe that written information onto actual paper.

One must write down from (four kinds of people):

  1. from those who are above him,
  2. those who are below him,
  3. those who are at his level,
  4. as well as from the book of his father – but he has to be sure that he is transcribing from the actual handwriting of his father and not from the handwriting of someone else.

Furthermore, one must strive to do four things:

  1. to seek out knowledge seeking only the Countenance of Allah swt and His Good Pleasure;
  2. to act in accordance with the Book of Allah swt;
  3. to spread knowledge among students;
  4. and to author works, so as to keep one’s remembrance alive even after one’s death.”

Imam Bukhari (R) went on to say,

“And one will not accomplish these things without four things that he, as the slave of Allah, must acquire himself:

  1. knowledge of the Book (of Allah)
  2. (knowledge) of language
  3. (knowledge) of As-Sarf
  4. (knowledge) of An-Nahuw

Then one will need four things that are from the gifts of Allah swt (which He swt gives to whomsoever among His slaves He wishes):

  1. health,
  2. ability (and talent),
  3. a strong drive (to learn),
  4. and a retentive memory

If one is blessed with all of these things, four things will become easy for him (i.e., they will become insignificant in his eyes when compared to his greater purpose in life):

  1. family,
  2. children,
  3. wealth,
  4. and homeland

And one will be tested in four things:

  1. enemies who find satisfaction in his failures and mistakes;
  2. friends who find fault with him;
  3. ignorant people who level accusations against him;
  4. and (contemporary) scholars who become jealous of him (and his achievements).

If he remains patient through all of these tests, Allah swt will honor him with four things in this world:

  1. with the honor of becoming content with one’s lot in life;
  2. with the aura of awe one inspires in others though one’s profoundly deep faith (in Allah swt);
  3. with the sweet satisfaction of having (and of studying) knowledge
  4. and with an eternal life (i.e., even after such a scholar dies, he will live on through the good works and knowledge he will have left behind).

And Allah will reward him with four things in the Hereafter:

  1. with the option of interceding for whomsoever he wants from his (Muslim) brothers;
  2. with being blessed with the Shade of the Throne (on a Day during which there will be no shade save that shade);
  3. with being able to drink from the Basin of Muhammad salalahu ‘alayhi wasalam (when there will be no water save for the water in that Basin);
  4. and with being the company of the Prophets in the highest levels of Paradise: ‘Then they will be in the company of those on whom Allah has bestowed His Grace, of the Prophets…’ [Surat an Nisaa, 4:69]. “

Having explained what it entails to be a life-long student of knowledge, Imam Bukhari (R) said to Al-Qaadee Al-Waleed:

“O my son, in general terms I have informed you of the various things I have heard from my teachers on this topic. So either come now to fulfill the purpose for which you have come to me (to seek knowledge), or abandon this endeavour (if you feel that you will not be able to live up to the terms I explained to you).

[Tadreeb Ar-Raawee (2/157, 159)]

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In the above mentioned account, Imam Bukhari (R) pointed put all the hardships and obstacles that stood in the way of achieving excellence in the sciences of Hadeeth. To become a knowledgeable Hadeeth scholar, one had to, Imam Bukhari averred, travel far and wide to seek out Hadeeth narration – to the peaks of mountains, across vast seas, far out into the desert, and in the centers of large cities. During scholarly travels, one would have to make do with shells, leather, and pieces of bones upon which to write; and only when on returned to the city, where one could procure paper, could one transcribe the knowledge one gathered into books.

One has to study the lives not just of the Prophets and his Companions, but also of the scores of narrators that related Hadeeth narrations. In short, to become a Hadeeth scholar, one had to dedicate one’s entire life to pursuit of knowledge – all day, every day, every month, and every year of one’s life.

['The Biography of Imam Bukharee (R)', pp.131-137]

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Upcoming Webinar inshaa’Allah: ‘Does Islam Need Feminism?’ by Fatima Barkatulla

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Unveiling of Who’s Who: Sh. Abu ‘Eesa & the Bullies

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

 الحمد لله رب العالمين وصلى الله وسلم على رسول الله وعلى آله وأصحابه ومن اهتدى بهديه إلى يوم الدين

Asalamo’alaykum warahmatullah,

The drama and slander created against Sh. Abu ‘Eesa not only brought him a lot of insults but also numerous insults to Islam indirectly but would these ‘Muslim’ feminists ever understand? If that wasn’t enough, some notable Shuyookh showed their true colour in this time of confusion. Sigh. More than anything this incident has unveiled the ‘ijl or gods of people’s hearts. Today people do not worship a calf like the Bani Israeel. Instead they are bent on worshipping their opinions. Allahul Must’aan. Unfortunately, I do not have the time to write an article since my baby’s unwell. However, I will not let this slide and I have taken it upon myself to show the hypocrisy of these ‘feminists’ in my lifetime inshaa’Allah.

For now, I’d like to promote the following status updates on facebook. May Allah swt help us differentiate the Truth from falsehood and make us steadfast upon Truth despite the many bullies out there. Ameen.

Before I end: a very warm congratulations to Sh. Abu ‘Eesa on the birth of his daughter Hebah. May Allah swt continue to bless his household. Ameen!

With this walhamdolialh,

Umm S.

[P.S. Comments which are not within the boundaries of etiquette will be deleted quite enthusiastically inshaa'Allah for it is an obligation upon me to forbid the evil on my own blog.]

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Shaykh Kamal el Mekki’s response to Shaykh Abu ‘Eesa’s haters:

Hey Abu Eesa did you really think I would let you take all that hate by yourself? This is my territory yara! My apologies for the delay, I was oblivious to this thing for a while and then I was traveling internationally (I am actually writing this on the plane).

Although this is the perfect opportunity to throw Abu Eesa under the bus and come out victorious; I have to come out of hiding for the following reasons;

1. My potent combination of manliness and awesomeness dictates such.

2. Nobody hates on Abu Eesa but me.

3. I would gladly take a bullet for my friend (rubber only, and just one).

4. I want to defeat Abu Eesa while he is at his strongest and on my own, I don’t need anyone’s help.

5. I don’t want to resemble those who took this opportunity to win some brownie points with the women. You know very well what I put in my brownies!

As for all the men who joined the bandwagon and attacked AE; I will deal with you on a separate post. It was an issue that didn’t involve you but you couldn’t wait to inject yourself into it. You will experience firsthand how a lion deals with hyenas.

But on a serious note (and I do mean a serious note, I have resisted every temptation to make sardonic remarks):

1. The Prophet salalahu alayhi wa salam described the hypocrites as severe when they disagree. You could have just objected to the jokes. But sadly, you had to ask for firings and such. Others tried to drag Almaghrib into this as well. The believers would have only commented on the offense and not gone beyond. It is amazing that some quoted ahadith about correcting brothers. Is this how you correct your brother?

2. There were companions who committed major sins, yes MAJOR sins (adultery, slander), but they were still considered believers and their good deeds in the past were not forgotten. Mistah ibn Uthathah slandered a chaste woman but his good deeds and his participation at badr were not forgotten. Allah still commanded Abu Bakr to do good to him (24:22). Someone said Abu Eesa is not to be called a shaykh. So that’s how it works? You cancel out years of good work and speech if someone makes one mistake (I’m not saying he made a mistake by the way)?

3. We all hate it when the kuffar go into an innocent Muslim’s history to try to dig up dirt, and when they find nothing they quote statements out of context. They do this because they don’t fear Allah and they don’t care for the truth. Some tried to going back in time to prove their case against AE using past jokes and posts. What is the value of knowing about Allah and His Messenger salalahu alayhi wa salam if in the end, you behave just like someone who never heard of Allah and His messenger?

4. Be the one insulted and not the one insulting. You lost the minute you started to personally insult the man. Which is worse; a joke about women that is tasteless (in your eyes) or actually insulting an individual? How can someone possibly think they’re on the higher ground when they directly insult and assail someone else for telling a joke? Put the two on both sides of the balance and see which is worse. By what standards is it ok for girls in their twenties to insult a speaker who is older than they are, has gray hairs and is a father? At what point did we lose all the adab in our communities, and think it’s OK to publicly insult people?

5. Or perhaps you think it’s ok to try to ruin and tarnish someone’s reputation? So you’re religious enough to ‘correct’ and to state what is wrong, but you are not God fearing enough to realize that launching a campaign against someone is far more serious? You lie against someone saying he promotes rape and still think you’re in the right and they’re in the wrong?

What does it say about you when you try to ruin someone’s life because of something you didn’t like (not a major sin mind you)? Can we claim to be any better than the tyrants we hear about on the news? Why aren’t we able to separate between what we like and what we dislike about an individual?

I would like to conclude by telling you about the most unique and incredible battle in the history of mankind, the battle of Siffin. Believers would fight during the day and after the battle would go into the other camp and chat and converse. Unlike us, they could clearly separate between disagreeing with someone on the one hand, and still seeing them as brothers and as believers on the other. They didn’t allow their quarrel over an issue to spill into every other dynamic of their lives.

Brothers and sisters, we are mistreated and dealt with unjustly in the world today because we do the same to each other. Let’s change ourselves and change will come.

Be the hated and not the hater.

Be the insulted and not the one insulting.

Be the killed and not the killer.

wassalam

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stt1More by the same brother Amar:

Feminism is a disease not just within Islam but within secular society. It has contributed towards the moral decay of most societies around the world. It has given rise to the porn industry, the sexualisation of our society, it has contributed towards the breakdown of the family system and it has given rise to a number of other societal ills that we face today in modern times.

Feminism in the 21st century is simultaneously illogical, unnecessary, and evil. It hates the very gender it wants to safeguard and it is no exaggeration to state that its greatest enemies are not men but women. Throughout the centuries feminists have hijacked important issues related to women, such as rape, FGM, domestic abuse and used them to champion their own selfish agenda.

These are the very people that glorify hate speech against men and cry when men make humorous inferences against them and their disgusting ideology. This is the same group that has given women a false sense of confidence to utter whatever they want without weighing up the consequences it will have on them and their families.

So it is no surprise that yesterday feminists and their male sympathisers decided to crawl out of the woodworks when a person of knowledge made an innocent joke about women. The irony is that the very women who had contentions with the joke, would not have thought twice about laughing had the joke been at the expense of men; thus proving the hypocrisy of feminists and those who follow their mindset.

The fact is Muslim women do not need feminism. The day women begin to embrace the ideas of feminism is the day they need to fear for their religion. The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) gave women all the rights they needed. So for women to hijack his teachings and amalgamate them within their own selfish ideology not only goes against what he taught but it goes against the fundamental principles of Islam.

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Post-Partum Advice for the New Muslim Mother: Managing Spirituality and Sanity

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Asalamo’alaykum warahmatullah,

Alhamdolilah I am overjoyed to announce the ginormous gift I have been blessed with! Alhamdolilah thumma alhamdolilah, Allah swt has blessed me with a happy, beautiful and lovely baby boy (my 1st child) almost three months ago and a lot has happened since then. Let’s just say a few tests gave me the courage to walk a thousand miles as a person and I have changed completely through motherhood. Quite literally in every way and form. In most ways, for the better. In a few ways, for the worse. I have become much weaker than before for my heart trembles at my son’s slightest discomfort. I lose my sense of calm and I become like a grizzly mama-bear if anyone steps on my baby’s rights or comfort. Also,  dunia swamps you with its desires because you start dreaming for attaining all those wonderful worldly things for your little one not realizing that, that was the very road you wanted to avoid when you decided to become more practising.

Anyway, as Allah swt has changed me quickly from a young woman to a wife then to a mother within a span of a year and a half, He swt has made one thing remain constant. And that is my love for learning.

I never knew how hard it is going to be to keep learning after becoming a wife. And it hit me like a ton of bricks that it is not going to get any easier with time as kids come into the picture. SubhanAllah. If you are single, hurry, hurry, hurry! Doesn’t matter how amazingly practising your spouse is going to be. Responsibilities and worries associated with those responsibilities are going to be your daily concerns after marriage and unless you already are mature enough skill-wise to deal with them, you’re going to have to spend a lot of time learning those skills. Whether you have time left for acquiring Islamic knowledge will depend on how much motivation you had to begin with. More about this very important topic soon inshaa’Allah.

Motherhood is a gift, an honor, a responsibility and an institution. I so love it that I could raise the children of the rest of the world. That’s the proportion of love my heart contains after becoming a mother. You don’t need to ‘learn’ how to become one. All you need to do is see your infant, toddler, teenager and/or adult child with the lens called, ‘unconditional love’. Sabr will follow.

My mother gave me the best and the most concise advice when I got married and that was to add love to whatever task that became difficult. A lot of times for the ambitious lot like myself, we tend to invite restlessness in our lives by our ambitiousness. Motherhood (and wifehood) teaches you to pause your life every single time for your beloveds and serve them in a manner which demands love from the beginning to the end. For some women it may be tough since they may see some challenges as barriers to what they want to achieve in life but that chain of thoughts you don’t want to entertain even for a single second. You keep loving and you keep working inshaa’Allah. Love, love, and more love.

You must develop a healthy attitude towards life before you can continue on your path to seeking knowledge as a mother inshaa’Allah. Here’s a few realizations and a bit of advice for the mama who wants to continue learning but doesn’t know how.

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1. ALL this is normal. Realize that the sleepless nights, the not-being-able-to-go-to-the-bathroom dilemma, the feeding/calming baby problems and all the anxiety that throws your ‘normalness’ out of whack is actually quite normal. I empathize with you because I am going through it and sometimes it seems like I am the only one who’s life is full of daily struggles. On top of that, if your husband’s out of the picture, then you need toughening up even more. In my situation, due to certain reasons, we had to be apart for my entire pregnancy up until now so without the extra pair of hands to calm a frantic baby, nights can be mentally draining. However, all this is doable inshaa’Allah.

As much you love being a mother, there will be days you’d wish your life would be back to normal when you could enjoy a cup of tea without being disturbed. Or enjoy food without it being cold. Or enjoy a conversation with your husband without the crying of your baby. Yet, understand that this is your normal now.

Embrace it, love it, cherish it. In other words, be thankful to Allah swt for it!

But please, I beg you, do not compare it. All those ladies who said they had ‘easy’ pregnancies and ‘easy’ babies are exaggerating or have terrible memories. Or perhaps they had better attitudes towards motherhood and that’s something you can change about yourself. Our challenges become easier when we accept that life is going to demand more effort now that we are dedicated to raising another slave of Allah swt. Dear mum, you’re raising a leader for the Muslim Ummah. Surely, a mum who’s raising a leader, doesn’t have an easy life and is not going to have an easy life. Remind yourself of this being an opportunity for sadaqah jaariyah (on-going charity or supply of good deeds).Can the one who knows about Akhirah be like the one who does not? Never! So try to be flexible as much as possible and quit resenting it. The earlier you develop that approach, the more you’ll experience joy in this new role and inshaa’Allah make you resistant to Post-partum depression.

2. Love the mundaneness, in fact ace it with Ihsaan and do not belittle it. The society we live in and the feminist movement, both, have led us women to believe that there is no reward or ajr in mundane activities. That you have to have this rocking project to help the Ummah, in order to help the Ummah. Or that you have to leave everything what feminine roles require of you and are by the way Islamic obligations, in order to actualize that which is not even an obligation. What you end up doing is going against your fitrah (natural innate instinct), sabotaging your sense of peace and disrupting the natural order of your wonderful womanly self.

Please don’t get me wrong -nobody is stopping you from all the beautiful dreams you have for your Akhirah but please realize that you do get ajr as you wade through the sea of your daily mundane activities.

An example is that while you feed your baby, you have the intention that you give them wholesome nutrition so that ten years down the road she is a healthy individual who is able to forward the learning and teaching of Islam. That is more ‘within your league’ both dunia and Akhirah-wise versus forgetting Allah swt as you aim to become the first Muslimah newscaster(!) on some TV channel. Also, as you fold your laundry, you could make the intention that I am doing this so that my household is more organized and thus has more harmony which in turn will make my husband happy and a woman with whom her husband’s happy is more eligible for Jannah inshaa’Allah. In other words, keeping up with mundaneness makes households harmonious. Be on your guard for this is something that Shaytan does not want. He doesn’t want sakeenah (tranquillity) in your household. This is the exact reason why you would notice a chaos in managing of households. Some husbands are lazy and tire out their wives by not contributing in helping out at home at all because Shaytan makes them believe that maintaining a harmonious house is only the woman’s job. Likewise wives become frustrated doing tasks every day since Shaytan makes them forget that these are some of the easy ways of getting reward which eventually will have a domino-effect on their eeman.

Abu Dharr RA reported: Allah’s Messenger salalahu ‘alayhi wasalam said to me: ‘Don’t consider anything insignificant out of good things even if it is that you meet your brother with a cheerful countenance.’ [Sahih al Muslim; Book #032, Hadith #6359]

If you don’t believe me that doing mundane activities is worthy of much reward, then think about Fatima RA and study her life analytically. Why do scholars say that she is one of the best of women? Please don’t throw that feminist nonsense at me. You’re going to wish with deep regret on the day of Judgement that you had stopped dismissing what Allah swt deemed more rewarding for a woman. We claim we are doing it for Allah swt at times when we are only chasing another hawaa such as prestige.

3. Do what works keeping Allah swt’s rules in mind. IGNORE what people say or think of you even if that includes health professionals after you have exhausted all means to do what’s best. If nothing except formula feeding works for you and your baby, go for it. You don’t get a medal for exclusively nursing and being a zombie in your Salah, neglectful of Dhikr or crabby with your family members. (Please, again, I ask you not to misunderstand me because I am pro-nursing yet I know it becomes a hawaa when it prevents you from optimistic attitude towards life and more importantly, Allah swt.) If it’s co-sleeping or not, go for it. You are unable to cloth diaper because you do not have the energy to despite knowing its benefits, it’s alright. If you feel like loving your baby in a certain way which you feel is the right thing for her at the moment then do not let people tell you that you’re spoiling her. Good habits must be formed but take it one step at a time.

Your sanity is important for your ‘Ibadah.

You are a slave of Allah swt before you’re a mother.

Breast-feeding, cloth-diapering, co-sleeping, formula-feeding etc. do not determine your level of Taqwa. So do not go crazy over it nor should you judge anyone.

إِنَّ أَكْرَمَكُمْ عِندَ اللَّهِ أَتْقَاكُمْ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرٌ

Verily, the most honourable of you with Allâh is that (believer) who has At-Taqwa [i.e. he is one of the Muttaqûn. Verily, Allâh is All-Knowing, All-Aware.

[Surat'l Hujraat, 49:part of ayah # 13]

You need to maintain your mental health to get that spiritual lift from ‘Ibadah. And a happy, eemanful Muslimah is an excellent mother and a lovely wife. Nobody is going to do a standing ovation of what you did at the expense of your spirituality. You are your own support so you better maintain your eeman, do what you can within your means and not beat yourself over it.

4. Ask for help, delegate if you have to, thank when being helped and make a mental note to go the extra mile to show your gratefulness to that person. You do not become a ‘bad’ mother if you get some help from family, friends, neighbours and nurses. Do not feel inadequate. Allah swt made you a mother because He swt knows you can handle it. You are new to all this and it is okay to allow people to help you with even the most easiest of tasks. However, when you do get help, there will be times when the help you receive is not very helpful for you. Instead of getting annoyed, be thankful!

5. Take care of your physical as much as possible.

  • Minimize sophisticated cooking and go all-natural. Of course, if you have the time and energy to cook in a sophisticated way, by all means go for it. However, it may be a little difficult so instead of making a fruit salad, have the fruit. There are many wonderful websites which offer easy and healthier recipes.
  • Please keep taking your multivitamins and ask a dietician (and confirm with a lactation consultant if it is okay) as to how to increase your energy levels through natural means.
  • Do not worry too much about the physical ‘souvenirs’ of child-birth. You can work-out as soon as your baby develops a routine. For now, if possible, go for a mini stroll with your baby and get some fresh air which most new mothers need. Walking will help post-partum healing in a way that is almost miraculous.
  • Book appointments with a female massage therapist for your post-partum healing before you give birth! Also, keep information about centers which offer pelvic physiotherapy handy.
  • Salt baths, heat pads, nursing pillows for your lower back and consistent pain meds will be your best friends.
  • As easy it is to be over anxious about your baby’s littlest of discomforts, recognize that inshaa’Allah Allah swt will take care of your munchkin come what may in the manner He swt has decided. Initial low birth weight, choking on milk and/or in sleep, gas pains, constipation, nasal congestion that won’t go away, occasional spitting up of milk, first few tense days after your son’s circumcision are all a normal part of your toughening up as a mum. Have faith in Allah swt that things will settle down and if you need advice regarding any of the above, please do let me know. I had my baby in NICU for six days and five nights. My world had been torn apart. With my husband unable to be with me, it was a thousand times worse since besides the lack of emotional support, I had to limp with all the swelling and aches to my son’s ward to get all the paperwork done. I can never forget how I thought I was going to go blind from crying over my son’s health condition and subhanAllah I truly understood what Yaqub AS might have felt for Yusuf AS. Allah swt will take care of it all. He swt will give you, the mother, strength in ways you have never imagined. There will be countless nights you’d wish you weren’t the adult responsible for the helpless fragile little create for all the emotional upheaval and uncertainty of it but you will get the hang of it. Just pray to Him, beg Him, cry to Him! Please do not kill yourself over it like I almost did with no eating and drinking. It sort of brought on a lot of problems later on and made it difficult for me to take care of my son since I wasn’t as full of energy as I needed to be. I kind of triggered a vicious cycle. Get your loved ones and your family doctor on board. If you have to take your baby to the doctor for a health concern everyone says is normal yet your heart is restless, GO to the doctor. But please try to be kind to your body and mind.

6. Mothering is lonely work but you’re not alone. Try to have a good support group around you but if it isn’t possible just realize that this just a phase. You will be able to have a healthy social life soon inshaa’Allah. Connect with sisters online if you cannot in real-life although I do recommend the occasional meeting with other mommy-sisters in your community. Also, there are many events organized by local libraries for mums and babies which can be amazing for you as long as there is no music/songs involved. Finally, have heart that Umm Moosa, Aasiya, Hajar, Umm Maryam, Maryam, Umm Salama AS, Umm Ahmad ibn Hanbal and many more successful mothers felt lonely at some point or the other in their struggles.  It did not prevent them from being outstanding. To Allah swt always mattered a believing woman’s loneliness and He swt honored each woman’s struggle in history. A whole ritual of Hajj is made mandatory to commemorate the struggle of Hajar AS, a worried mother of her infant son Ismaeel AS. In addition, two brief examples below illustrate how Allah swt does not dismiss the mothers’ fear, loneliness and sadness. He swt acknowledges them to the point that He swt records their feelings in the Quraan. He swt will cool your eyes and strengthen your heart. Just keep trusting Him!

Eaxample of Umm Moosa

فَرَجَعْنَاكَ إِلَىٰ أُمِّكَ كَيْ تَقَرَّ عَيْنُهَا وَلَا تَحْزَنَ

‘…So We restored you to your mother that she might be content and not grieve…’

[Surat TaHa, part of ayah # 40]

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وَأَوْحَيْنَا إِلَىٰ أُمِّ مُوسَىٰ أَنْ أَرْضِعِيهِ ۖ فَإِذَا خِفْتِ عَلَيْهِ فَأَلْقِيهِ فِي الْيَمِّ وَلَا تَخَافِي وَلَا تَحْزَنِي ۖ إِنَّا رَادُّوهُ إِلَيْكِ وَجَاعِلُوهُ مِنَ الْمُرْسَلِينَ

And We inspired to the mother of Moses, “Suckle him; but when you fear for him, cast him into the river and do not fear and do not grieve. Indeed, We will return him to you and will make him [one] of the messengers.” (7)

وَأَصْبَحَ فُؤَادُ أُمِّ مُوسَىٰ فَارِغًا ۖ إِن كَادَتْ لَتُبْدِي بِهِ لَوْلَا أَن رَّبَطْنَا عَلَىٰ قَلْبِهَا لِتَكُونَ مِنَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ

 And the heart of Moses’ mother became empty [of all else]. She was about to disclose [the matter concerning] him had We not bound fast her heart that she would be of the believers.(10)

فَرَدَدْنَاهُ إِلَىٰ أُمِّهِ كَيْ تَقَرَّ عَيْنُهَا وَلَا تَحْزَنَ وَلِتَعْلَمَ أَنَّ وَعْدَ اللَّهِ حَقٌّ وَلَٰكِنَّ أَكْثَرَهُمْ لَا يَعْلَمُونَ

So We restored him to his mother that she might be content and not grieve and that she would know that the promise of Allah is true. But most of the people do not know. (13)

[Surat'l Qasas, ayahs # 7, 10 and 13]

Example of Maryam AS

فَأَجَاءَهَا الْمَخَاضُ إِلَىٰ جِذْعِ النَّخْلَةِ قَالَتْ يَا لَيْتَنِي مِتُّ قَبْلَ هَٰذَا وَكُنتُ نَسْيًا مَّنسِيًّا

 And the pains of childbirth drove her to the trunk of a date-palm. She said: “Would that I had died before this, and had been forgotten and out of sight!”

فَنَادَاهَا مِن تَحْتِهَا أَلَّا تَحْزَنِي قَدْ جَعَلَ رَبُّكِ تَحْتَكِ سَرِيًّا

 Then [the babe 'Īsā (Jesus) or Jibril (Gabriel)] cried unto her from below her, saying: “Grieve not! Your Lord has provided a water stream under you;

وَهُزِّي إِلَيْكِ بِجِذْعِ النَّخْلَةِ تُسَاقِطْ عَلَيْكِ رُطَبًا جَنِيًّا

 “And shake the trunk of date-palm towards you, it will let fall fresh ripe-dates upon you.”

فَكُلِي وَاشْرَبِي وَقَرِّي عَيْنًا ۖ

 “So eat and drink and be glad…”

[Surat Maryam, 19:23-part of 25]

He is As-Samee’, who listens to your pleas no matter how silent they are, Al-Khabeer who knows all that nobody acknowledge before you tell Him and is As-Shaakir, who will be appreciative of all that you do befitting His Generosity in this world and the next inshaa’Allah. Keep renewing your intentions. Seek Allah swt through your efforts and He swt will make your efforts productive and add barakah to them.

It is reported that the son of Al-Fudayl b. ‘Ayyâd – Allâh have mercy on him – said to his father: Father! How sweet (beautiful) the speech of the Companions is! [Al-Fudayl] said, “Son, do you know why it was so sweet?” He replied, “No father, I do not.” He said, “Because they sought Allâh the Exalted when they spoke.” [Al-Bayhaqî, Shu’ab Al-îmân 2:299]

7. Strive to be kind to your husband. Most often husbands might feel ‘left-out’ as the new mum ventures on bravely from one motherly task to another until the day ends. As it is all new for you, the mum, it is new for them to be suddenly displaced by a new individual who has taken all your attention. So be gentle. While men should be understanding, a Muslimah will always try her best to continue to show kindness and affection to her husband via healthy communication. Yes you’re at the peak of exhaustion. Yes you’re not fully the same for now. Yes you have a million reasons to lose it with your husband but you have a million more to show love to him for the sake of Allah swt. Remember how Umm Sulaym RA behaved with composure with her husband, Abu Talhah RA, after the death of her baby boy? She was understanding of his needs despite the great calamity that had struck her. It’s not easy but that’s who we’re looking at as a role model inshaa’Allah as a Muslimah.

Also, please keep in mind that if the parents aim to be happy with each other, the children will feel secure and happy. You want to set that as a status quo in your house from the day the first child arrives because building a nest takes two committed individuals who sacrifice every day for His Sake. You want to make your house a sacred place and for that you have to recognize your marital relationship as sacred. And when something is sacred, you protect it from Shaytan in every way by fearing Allah swt in every situation. Consider it like a war against Iblis.

Jabir reported that Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Iblis places his throne upon water; he then sends detachments (for creating dissension) ; the nearer to him in rank are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. One of them comes and says: I did so and so. And he says: You have done nothing. Then one amongst them comes and says: I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife. The Satan goes near him and says: ‘You have done well. A’mash said: He then embraces him. [Sahih al Muslim; Book #039, Hadith #6755]

Even if it’s just you, the weary wife, who appreciates the bond’s sacredness for now. Kindness is infectious and inshaa’Allah your husband will catch up with you if he hasn’t already. You’ll be surprised in a few years time how he would’ve changed for the better. But today the light of love should radiate from you, at least. Why? Because you want to get that extra reward and also since women have this extraordinary strength to continue loving come what may. Use your God-given powers to come closer to God and be grateful for whatever effort your husband puts into being kind to you. Create the reinforcement loop by magnifying the goodness and praising him. Really, he has more goodness in him than otherwise. Ungratefulness is the backbone of marital discord as well as inviting trouble in Akhirah.

Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas: The Prophet said: “I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful.” It was asked, “Do they disbelieve in Allah?” (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, ‘I have never received any good from you.” [Sahih al Bukhari; Book #2, Hadith #28]

8. Pause and build memories. Record your baby’s firsts from the first bath, first head shave to the sweet coos and the heart-melting smiles. Involve family and friends. Inshaa’Allah it will relax you and you would have so many beautiful memories saved for future. It will also put you in a state of thankfulness and Allah swt likes a slave enjoying His Blessings.

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah will be pleased with a slave who eats some food then praises Allaah for it, and drinks some drink then praises Allaah for it.” [Reported by Muslim, 2734, from the hadeeth of Anas]

9. Aim within your current resources. Make use of what you have and stop waiting for what you do not have in order to do what you want. Improvise, for taufeeq (divine assistance) for bigger ‘Ibadah or knowledge-seeking opportunities open up when you are grateful for the little opportunities. And how do you become grateful? By utilizing those smaller opportunities.

  • I have so much to learn when it comes to Islam and for the past year and a half, I had fallen into despair. I didn’t look at what I had in terms of time and energy and wished for what I did not have. What it led to is more loss of valuable time and more despair and resentment. What could have prevented my spiritual downfall is utilizing what I already have and just simply stop expecting what I couldn’t have. Resentment comes from broken expectations and that’s what Shaytan wants. Nowadays, as my little one finishes off the eating/burping/activity cycle and finally falls asleep, I use my iPhone to watch or listen to lectures which I have decided to finish for my organized learning. My son doesn’t sleep long enough for me to complete the lecture but I make a mental note and start from there without feeling annoyed at not being able to complete in one go. I no longer get the opportunity to attend halaqahs, classes or even online classes but I make use of the opportunities I have in hand. I no longer have the luxury to make notes while I listen but subhanAllah, guess what? I memorize what I learn as I learn and require very less effort in retention because I train my mind to be active and learn as the learning is going on versus becoming lazy and relying on notes all the time. When my days are fully occupied with taking care of my precious son then I use the night time when he’s asleep to get something done. [A side note: please do not expect that your baby will sleep long hours from day 1. This attitude will prevent you from overlooking and appreciating whatever little increase there is in his sleeping hours. I remember an interesting conversation with a sister whose baby is a week older than my son. She was upset that her baby slept only four hours at night. That was when her baby was around 5 weeks! I forced an understanding smile although my son barely slept 2 hours at night without waking up for milk! The point here is that do not expect babies to suddenly have excellent sleep schedules because babies are still adjusting to the outside world where they have to keep demanding for food. Earlier, Allah swt was providing them with everything 24/7 without demanding anything. SubhanAllah. So it is a big change for our young ones and we must be understanding as well as realistic.]
  • Also, make use of the time you spend putting the baby to sleep. Recite some Adhkaar in a peaceful tone, do Istighfaar or review some Quraan you know.

10. Give yourself very easy goals for learning/reading/teaching. Goals which you know are simply too easy. Sense of achievement is addictive and it pushes you to do more and more.

Small wins are exactly what they sound like, and are part of how keystone habits create widespread changes. A huge body of research has shown that small wins have enormous power, and influence disproportionate to the accomplishments of the victories themselves.”Small wins are a steady appplication of a small advantage,” one Cornell professor wrote in 1984. “Once a small win has been accomplished, forces are set in motion that favour another small win.” Small wins fuel transformative changes by leveraing tiny advantages into patternst that convince people that bigger achievements are within reach. [The Power of Habit, pp. 112]

An example of a simple task could be reciting some Quraan while the baby is awake. For some mothers, it is impossible to do that but you could try. This will give you the confidence that you can do something while the baby is awake and that too, for yourself for a change because often times mothers run from fulfilling baby’s needs to all other chores, forgetting their own spiritual goals for seeking knowledge. It doesn’t matter even if you listen to five minutes of a lesson or accomplish only 1% of the lesson you had assigned yourself for the day. What matters is that you continue doing it and remaining steadfast upon it. In order to be steadfast upon this when the energy/time/enthusiasm are running low, the only thing which will keep one going is remembering the virtues of learning and teaching Islam.

Hadith # 1

Narrated Ibn Mas’ud RA: I heard the Prophet salalahu ‘alayhi wasalam saying, “There is no envy except in two: a person whom Allah has given wealth and he spends it in the right way, and a person whom Allah has given wisdom (i.e. religious knowledge) and he gives his decisions accordingly and teaches it to the others.” [Sahih al Bukhari; Book #24, Hadith #490]

Hadith # 2

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever calls people to right guidance will have a reward like that of those who follow him, without it detracting from their reward in the slightest, and whoever calls people to misguidance will have a burden of sin like that of those who follow him, without it detracting from their burden in the slightest.” [Narrated by Muslim, # 2674]

Tafseer of the ayah # 11 of Surat’l Mujadilah:

Imam Ahmad recorded that Abu At-Tufayl `Amir bin Wathilah said that Nafi` bin `Abdul–Harith met `Umar bin Al-Khattab in the area of `Usfan. `Umar appointed Abu At-Tufayl to be the governor of Makkah. `Umar asked him, “Whom did you appoint as your deputy for the valley people (that is, Makkah).” `Amir said, “I appointed Ibn Abza, one of our freed slaves, as my deputy.” `Umar said, “You made a freed slave their governor in your absence” He said, “O Leader of the faithful! He has memorized Allah’s Book and has knowledge of regulations of inheritance, along with being a proficient judge.” `Umar said, “Surely, your Prophet has said,

«إِنَّ اللهَ يَرْفَعُ بِهذَا الْكِتَابِ قَوْمًا وَيَضَعُ بِهِ آخَرِين»

(Verily, Allah elevates some people and degrades others, on account of this Book.)” Muslim collected this Hadith.

[Tafseer ibn Katheer]

More Beloved than giving the entire world’s worth of Charity in His Cause

It is reported that Imām Al-Hasan Al-Basrī – Allāh have mercy on him – said: ‘To learn a single topic of knowledge and teach it to a Muslim is more beloved to me than having the whole world and giving it in the cause of Allāh.’ [Al-Khatīb Al-Baghdādī, Al-Faqīh wa Al-Mutafaqqih article 53.]

Pre-requisite to become a Muttaqi

It is reported that Abû Al-Dardâ – Allâh be pleased with him – said:’You will never be pious (a person of taqwâ) until you become knowledgeable, and you will never be beautiful with your knowledge until you act [by it].’ [Ibn Ábd Al-Barr, Jâmi’ Bayân Al-’Ilm wa Fadlihî article 1239.]

It’s worth it!

It is reported from ‘Abdullâh b. ‘Abbâs – Allâh be pleased with them – that he said: After Allâh’s Messenger – Allâh’s peace and blessings be upon him – passed away, I said to a man from the Ansâr, “Come, let us ask [and learn from] the Prophet’s Companions, Allâh’s peace and blessings be upon him, for they are many in number today.” He replied, “I am surprised at you Ibn ‘Abbâs – do you really think people need you when there are so many Companions of the Prophet – Allâh’s peace and blessings be upon him?” So he did not involve himself in this endeavor, but I busied myself asking [the Companions about issues]. If I heard of a hadîth being reported by a man, I would come to him and if he was taking his midday nap I would lay down my garment and lie outside waiting for him, with the wind blowing dust in my face. The man would come out [for Dhuhr] and see me in that state, and he would exclaim, “O nephew of Allâh’s Messenger! What has brought you here? You should have sent for me and I would have come to you!” I would say, “Rather I should come to you [to seek knowledge].” I would then ask him about the hadîth I heard. The man [who I originally invited to seek knowledge with me] remained as he was, and when he saw how people would gather around me [to seek knowledge] he said, “For sure, this young man was more intelligent than me.” [Al-Dârimî, Al-Sunan Vol. 2 p129.]

11. Forgiveness.  

  • Forgive others for your sake. Like a friend once said, ‘Forgive, not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace.’ So spot on!
  • Seek forgiveness from Allah swt and people by increasing in good because motherhood is a challenging time when emotions run wild. And when emotions run wild, mistakes are definitely made.

It is reported that Harim b. Hayyān – Allāh have mercy on him – said: ‘Never does the servant turn wholeheartedly to Allāh except that Allāh turns the hearts of the believers to him, providing him their love.’ [Al-Dhahabī, Siyar A’lām Al-Nubalā` 4:49.]

Narrated Ibn Mas’ud: A man kissed a woman (unlawfully) and then went to the Prophet and informed him. Allah revealed: ‘And offer prayers perfectly At the two ends of the day And in some hours of the night (i.e. the five compulsory prayers). Verily! good deeds remove (annul) the evil deeds (small sins) (11.114). The man asked Allah’s Apostle, “Is it for me?” He said, “It is for all my followers.” [Sahih al Bukhari; Book #10, Hadith #504]

12. Give sadaqah.

  • Fascinating info about what sadaqah can do can be found here.

13. If you’re set with Him, everything else settles in you life. You can do this by:

  • Creating a wall of peace around your soul. Everything will turn out fine inshaa’Allah. He swt will take care of everything. Lay down your burdens at His Threshold. Accept your share of this dunia and harbor good thoughts of Him such that you are certain in your heart that everything that is becoming difficult for you has an underlying benefit for you. He swt has a plan for you and His Wisdom will eventually open up to you if you are patient. Have your eyes focused on the Akhirah.

It was narrated that Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever is mainly concerned about the Hereafter, Allaah will make him feel independent of others and will make him focused and content, and his worldly affairs will fall into place. But whoever is mainly concerned with this world, Allaah will make him feel in constant need of others and will make him distracted and unfocused, and he will get nothing of this world except what is decreed for him.” [Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2389; classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 6510].

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Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “When a person spends his entire day with no other concern but Allaah alone, Allaah, may He be glorified, will take care of all his needs and take care of all that is worrying him; He will empty his heart so that it will be filled only with love for Him, free his tongue so that it will speak only in remembrance of Him (dhikr) and cause all his faculties to work only in obedience to Him. But if a person spends his entire day with no other concern but this world, Allaah will make him bear its distress, anxiety and pain; He will leave him to sort himself out, and cause his heart to be distracted from the love of Allaah towards the love of some created being, cause his tongue to speak only in remembering people instead of remembering Allaah, and cause him to use his talents and energy in obeying and serving them. So he will strive hard, labouring like some work-animal, to serve something other than Allaah… Everyone who turns away from being a true slave of Allaah and obeying Him and loving Him will be burdened with servitude, love and obedience to some created being. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): ‘And whosoever turns away (blinds himself) from the remembrance of the Most Beneficent (Allaah), We appoint for him a shaytaan (devil) to be a qareen (intimate companion) to him.’ [al-Zukhruf 43:36].” [Al-Fawaa’id, p. 159]

  • Turning to Him completely with every fiber of your being

Ibn al-Qayyim (R)has said: “Rushing towards Allāh and depending on Him, being pleased with Him, filling the heart with love of Him, constantly remembering Him, feeling happiness and joy with knowing Him – all of these are instantaneous rewards, a paradise of this world, and a life that the lives of kings cannot even compare to.” [Manners of Seeking Knowledge, pp.27]

وَلَا تَكُونُوا كَالَّذِينَ نَسُوا اللَّهَ فَأَنسَاهُمْ أَنفُسَهُمْ ۚ أُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْفَاسِقُونَ

And be not like those who forgot Allah , so He made them forget themselves. Those are the defiantly disobedient.

 [Surat'l Hashr, 59:19]

“Reflect upon this verse and you will find that it contains a great and noble meaning, and this is that whoever forgets his Lord will end up forgetting himself, and will not know the reality of himself or his interests. He will be made to forget what leads to his health and success in life, and will end up becoming incapacitated and lost, just like a wild animal. In fact, the animals might even be more aware of what is in their interests than him due to the fact that they remain firm upon the bit of guidance that was provided to them by their Creator. He, on the other hand, rebelled against the fitrah that he was formed on and forgot his Lord, and was thus made to forget himself, his soul, its haracteristics, what completes it, what purifies it, and what satisfies it during its life.” [Manners of Seeking Knowledge, pp.49-50]

13. You’re not a failure! Yes that’s despite your house looking a tornado-ridden zone or your baby’s continuous blood-curling cries without you knowing what to do. No you have not failed. It is okay to make mistakes. It is okay to have a relationship blunder once in a while (just hasten to tawbah as mentioned in # 11). It is okay to feel rotten at times and break down in front of strangers. When bathroom trips, sleep, brushing hair and wearing decent clothing become a luxury, it is okay to not like the way you look in the mirror. It is okay to not be able to keep up with your study schedule. Just use this time of helplessness and weakness to connect with Allah swt more in any way possible! And finally remember:

 Rasulalah salalahu ‘alayhi wasalam has said: “No misfortune or disease befalls a Muslim, no worry or grief or harm or distress – not even a thorn that pricks him – but Allaah will expiate for some of his sins because of that.” [Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5642) and Muslim (2573)]

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I pray this is helpful to all the sisters in this world. We can get through this because we are certain that the rewards are going to be great.

And keep this quote in your mind. I read it in a book on the biography of Imam Ahmad(R) but do not remember the reference. In some places it says that he was asked by his son. Allahu ‘alam but here it is:

jannah

 Imam Ahmad [ibn Hanbal] was asked: “When will the servant [of Allah] find rest?”

He said: “With the first step he takes into Paradise.”

The Akhirah is the resting place for us believing women.

Until then, we continue to struggle inshaa’Allah.

For His Sake alone. No matter who deserts us we will remain pillars of strength for our families and more importantly our children inshaa’Allah.

We will continue to learn about Islam and become better Muslimahs for our learning is a way of telling Allah swt that we love to know about Him and so we hope that we are worthy to be praised about in the Heavens amongst His Creations inshaa’Allah.

And Allah swt knows best.

May Allah swt wipe the tears of every mother in this world. May Allah swt console the hearts of all mothers. May Allah swt place contentment in their hearts and cool their eyes through their children in this world and the next. May Allah swt make us knowledgeable, God-fearing mothers who raise generations like the Sahaba and Sahabiyaat. May we be able to do our part with Ihsaan such that Allah swt honors us with the best of honorific rewards in Jannatul Firdaus al ‘Ala.

Ameen!

Lots of du’aas,

- Umm Sulaym

P.S. There’s lots more that could be said but to prevent the post from being lengthy and finally getting myself to publish it after several days of revision, I had to stop right here. Plus I was anxious that my baby would be up before I have the energy to re-read it again and publish it. Alhamdolilah, it’s done!

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